THE REAL MAN IS

Assalamualaikum

My dear sisters when you look for a husband, don't make wealth, popularity and looks the priority of your search for marriage. 

Obviously you must be attracted to the one you want to marry, but if you go into a marriage purely for these reasons, sooner or later you will find yourself in a broken marriage, upset and distressed.

Whereas, if you had looked at the Akhlaq (character), and Deen of your husband or potential husband and find that they are of excellent level, you will indeed succeed in having picked the right happiness for yourself and your marriage.

The real man who fears Allah عز و جل will definitely fear oppressing you and He will recognise his rights over you. He will be the one who will bring up your children, he will bring up true soldiers of Islam, and true women of this Ummah.

A real man can't stand seeing his woman hurt. He's careful with his decisions and actions, so he never has to be responsible for her Pain.

“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”

(Surah An-Nisa’: 34)

 

The Prophet ﷺ said: “If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and attitude pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.” (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi and classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 1084).

LOVE OF UMAR RA

I want to share a story my teacher told me today about Umar (ra).

 

Umar(ra) never forbade or prevented women from going to masjid but he was very protective about his wife and did not like her going to masjid.

So once it happened that the wife of Umar(ra) goes to pray in masjid and it was quite dark at the masjid, so Umar(ra) pokes his wife at the masjid and his wife gets very scared and upset about it, not knowing who did it .

So while she returns home she says this to her husband that he was right about being protective about her and narrates him the incident that took place at the masjid while hearing this Umar(ra) smiled and told it was him who did that.
`Atika bint Zayd the wife of `Umar would ask `Umar permission to go to Salat in the Masjid and he would remain silent.

She would continue, "I swear I will go out unless you forbid me." She used to go out for Salat al-`Isha and Salat al-Fajr. She was asked once: "Why do you go out like that, knowing how jealous he is?" She replied: "And what prevents him from forbidding us?"

Umar ibn al-Khattab said that a man came to his house to complain about his wife. On reaching the door of his house, he hears Umar's wife shouting at him and reviling him. Seeing this, he was about to go back, thinking that Umar himself was in the same position and, therefore, could hardly suggest any solution for his problem. 

Umar saw the man turn back, so he called him and enquired about the purpose of his visit. He said that he had come with a complaint against his wife, but turned back on seeing the Caliph in the same position. Umar told him that he tolerated the excesses of his wife for she had certain rights against him.

He said, "Is it not true that she prepares food for me, washes clothes for me and suckles my children, thus saving me the expense of employing a cook, a washer man and a nurse, though she is not legally obliged in any way to do any of these things? Besides, I enjoy peace of mind because of her and am kept away from indecent acts on account of her. I therefore tolerate all her excesses on account of these benefits. It is right that you should also adopt the same attitude..."

Thus.. from this story.. what we can learned is.. being patient with our wife is the most important.. because, nowadays.. there is so much fight within the married couples.

the understanding is the important thing though. and.. be patient, love ur wife at infinity..

PERKONGSIAN: MANFAAT SURAH YAASIN DAN SURAH KHAFI

DALIL BACAAN YAASIN MALAM JUMAAT 

Imam al-Baihaqi dalam kitab asy-Syu'ab telah mentakhrijkan daripada Sayyidina Abu Hurairah radhiyallahu 'anhu, katanya : "Rasulullah shollallahu 'alaihi wa sallam bersabda:

"Sesiapa yang membaca pada malam Jumaat 'Ha Mim ad-Dukhan' dan 'Yasin', jadilah dia pada pagi harinya dalam keadaan diampuni." 

Al-Ishbihani meriwayatkan dengan lafaz :

"Sesiapa yang membaca 'Yasin' pada malam Jumaat dia diberi keampunan." - [Hadith ini disebutkan oleh Imam al-Munziri di dalam kitab al-Targhib dengan katanya; "Hadith ini diriwayatkan oleh al-Ishbihani." 

Inilah antara dalilnya bagi pengamalan bacaan surah Yasin pada malam Jumaat sebagaimana diamalkan sekian lama oleh umat Islam di Alam Melayu-Nusantara, walau pun terdapat hadith-hadith lain yang menyarankan pada malam Jumaat juga dianjurkan membaca surah ad-Dukhan, al-Baqarah, Ali-'Imran, dan al-Kahfi dengan kelebihannya yang tersendiri. 

Pemilihan surah Yasin yang dijadikan amalan membacanya secara beramai-ramai pada malam Jumaat adalah kerana surahnya tidak terlalu panjang dan bersesuaian pula dibacakan pada waktu ruang antara selesai solat Maghrib dan sebelum waktu solat Isya. Manakala, surah-surah lain itu pula boleh dibuat secara bersendiri mengikut kemampuan masing-masing. 

Sementara itu, surah al-Kahfi pula boleh diamalkan pembacaannya secara beramai-ramai selepas selesai solat Subuh berjemaah, iaitu sejurus selepas berwirid dan berdoa, kerana ruang itu memadai bagi menghabiskan surah al-Kahfi sebelum menunaikan solat sunat Dhuha. Ia juga boleh dibaca sebelum sampai waktu solat Jumaat.

Pembacaan surah al-Kahfi pada siang hari Jumaat ini berdasarkan beberapa hadith, sebagaimana disarankan oleh Baginda Nabi shollallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, antaranya :

Al-Hakim dan al-Baihaqi telah mentakhrijkan daripada Abu Sa'id al-Khudri radhiyallahu 'anhu, daripada Nabi shollallahu 'alaihi wa sallam, sabda Baginda :

"Sesiapa yang membaca surah al-Kahfi pada hari Jumaat, dia akan mendapat cahaya di sepanjang masa di antara dua Jumaat." - [Al-Hakim berkata : "Hadith ini sahih." Ibnu Hajar berkata : "Hadith ini adalah hadith hasan dan ia hadith yang terkuat mengenai surah al-Kahfi."

Sa'id bin Mansur telah mentakhrijkan hadith mauquf daripada Abu Sa'id al-Khudri dengan lafaz :

"Dia akan mendapat cahaya di antara tempatnya dengan Kaabah."

Sa'id bin Mansur juga mentakhrijkan daripada Khalid bin Ma'dan katanya : "Sesiapa yang membaca surah al-Kahfi sebelum munculnya imam [pada hari Jumaat], dia akan mendapat kaffarah dosanya di antaranya dengan Jumaat itu dan cahayanya sampai ke Kaabah."

Ibnu Mardaweih telah mentakhrijkan daripada Ibnu Umar radhiyallahu 'anhuma, katanya : "Rasulullah shollallahu 'alaihi wa sallam bersabda :

"Sesiapa yang membaca surah al-Kahfi pada hari Jumaat, maka terbitlah cahaya dari bawah kakinya mencecah sehingga ke langit tinggi meneranginya pada Hari Kiamat dan dia diberi keampunan [terhadap dosanya] di antara dua Jumaat." 

Berdasarkan pada huraian serba ringkas ini, diharapkan tidak akan ada lagi perbalahan antara sesama umat Islam mengenai isu ini sekali gus mempertikaikan pula pengamalan bacaan surah Yasin pada malam Jumaat sebagaimana dilakukan oleh sebahagian besar umat Islam di Alam Melayu-Nusantara ini secara istiqamah.

Moga bermanfaat.

Apa yang penting ialah kita teruskan beramal demi mencapai keredhaan Allah 'Azza wa Jalla, kerana perbalahan dalam perkara yang kecil dan khilafiyah sifatnya ini tidak membawa sebarang manfaat, melainkan umat ini hanya tergelincir dalam perkara sia-sia. Wallahu a'lam.

اللهم صل وسلم على البشير النذير السراج المنير سيدنا محمد حبيب رب العالمين

Oleh : Ustaz Muhammad Hafiz bin Ahmad Tajudin al-Fandani.